Less Leaning in and More Letting Go

I went for a long walk in the woods a few weeks back and thought about all the things most us of carry around. The pain, that fight, that very real abuse, that comment, that look, that loss, that missed opportunity, disappointment…I could go on for hours. And I realized that there may be a way to relieve some of it. Let it go. Now I’m not saying to not be sad or not be affected or heaven forbid, to not be hurt. In fact I think we often jump to the sunny side of the street too fast. Sometimes we don’t feel things enough. And then later on we realize that we’re not quite over it after all.

But for many of us we can lighten the load a bit by LETTING GO. Let go of the anger. Let go of the righteousness. Let go of being right. Let go of the chip that sits on our shoulders. Letting go doesn’t mean it doesn’t still hurt sometimes. It just means maybe we don’t lead with it. Maybe we don’t tap into it when we get upset with our spouse or our mom or our boss. You see, pain, hurt, sadness…those are feelings. Anger, righteousness, being right, building a condo complex made out of chips on your shoulder? Those are reactions.

Listen. Sometimes life sucks. Sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes it’s unfair. And yes, sometimes it’s quite painful and full of loss. Whether your problems are first world or third world or out of this world, everyone has them.

We can’t go back. We can’t undo all the things that hurt or disappoint us. Some we had a part in and some we were true victims of someone else’s viscousness or deceit. But we can let go of some of the barnacles it has all left behind. It’s not easy. But it’s worth it.

Maybe 2016 can be the year you let go more and lean in less.